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Which One is Harder?, To love or to be loved?
Apparently,loving a person is determined by your heart. The heart is as complicated as love, to the fact that it may end up as a mystery if you try to fully understand it. It determines what your feelings are, your emotions, your everything. Loving a person is hard because your heart may not love a person, and it is very difficult to fight it. You will choose what you want. If you do already love a person, then that means that your heart said, "yes."
However, to be loved is extremely difficult if you have no idea what to do, let alone love the person who doesn't even know you exist. You will have to do a lot of things to get that person's eyes to look at you, that person's heart to feel that you are there.
Another thing that's hard here is that there are many factors to consider if you want to be loved. Some people look at the physical appearance, some mental, some the person's sex appeal and some look at the overall emotional stability of the person. What if you have the quality that the person you wish to love you hate? That can be hard to overcome...
I believe that you guys have an exactly answer of my question.I will give you a clue to help you all.
First, we must look at the question, to understand the question is one of the most important factors of producing an answer. Lets begin with the first few words...
What do you think..."
This refers to YOUR opinion, DON'T TAKE IT FROM ANY SOURCES.
(I am referring to romantic love which you are most likely trying to pinpoint) I will be dividing this part into two sections:
1. Loving someone is hard if you don't let the person know how you feel. If you let the person know how you feel, convincing the other people to love you back might be hard, but remember convincing others to love back is not equivalent to loving someone! Expecting too much from others can only cause pain in the end. If you love someone, try not to expect anything, because if you do that then you are inviting potentially deadly selfishness, jealousy, bitterness and anguish. If your love is pure, you can only give the best for the other person, and that is his/her freedom to choose. (I think this is equivalent to the popular connotation of "letting go")
2. Being loved is hard if you don't know how the other person feels, or particularly if this other person does not let his/her feelings known. Always keep in mind that we have our free will - and that includes the free will to romantically love someone or not! However do not exude rejection even if you dislike the other person because this will cause hurt, especially if the other party expects a lot. Respect their feelings. And finally, let them know how you feel about it. Talk it over, negotiate. It is possible to love someone without being romantic.
LESSONS TO LEARN:
1. Don't expect too much. Love others, and love yourself too. Even if others don't love back, at least you know that you have done something for yourself.
2. Silence is NEVER a solution to anything. Talk. Listen. Let others know how you feel. Understand how others feel. What happen because the two sides refuse to talk and listen to each other.
So, according to my passage, I leave this question for you, my dear fellow dudes/sis. Which one is HARDER?
However, to be loved is extremely difficult if you have no idea what to do, let alone love the person who doesn't even know you exist. You will have to do a lot of things to get that person's eyes to look at you, that person's heart to feel that you are there.
Another thing that's hard here is that there are many factors to consider if you want to be loved. Some people look at the physical appearance, some mental, some the person's sex appeal and some look at the overall emotional stability of the person. What if you have the quality that the person you wish to love you hate? That can be hard to overcome...
I believe that you guys have an exactly answer of my question.I will give you a clue to help you all.
First, we must look at the question, to understand the question is one of the most important factors of producing an answer. Lets begin with the first few words...
What do you think..."
This refers to YOUR opinion, DON'T TAKE IT FROM ANY SOURCES.
(I am referring to romantic love which you are most likely trying to pinpoint) I will be dividing this part into two sections:
1. Loving someone is hard if you don't let the person know how you feel. If you let the person know how you feel, convincing the other people to love you back might be hard, but remember convincing others to love back is not equivalent to loving someone! Expecting too much from others can only cause pain in the end. If you love someone, try not to expect anything, because if you do that then you are inviting potentially deadly selfishness, jealousy, bitterness and anguish. If your love is pure, you can only give the best for the other person, and that is his/her freedom to choose. (I think this is equivalent to the popular connotation of "letting go")
2. Being loved is hard if you don't know how the other person feels, or particularly if this other person does not let his/her feelings known. Always keep in mind that we have our free will - and that includes the free will to romantically love someone or not! However do not exude rejection even if you dislike the other person because this will cause hurt, especially if the other party expects a lot. Respect their feelings. And finally, let them know how you feel about it. Talk it over, negotiate. It is possible to love someone without being romantic.
LESSONS TO LEARN:
1. Don't expect too much. Love others, and love yourself too. Even if others don't love back, at least you know that you have done something for yourself.
2. Silence is NEVER a solution to anything. Talk. Listen. Let others know how you feel. Understand how others feel. What happen because the two sides refuse to talk and listen to each other.
So, according to my passage, I leave this question for you, my dear fellow dudes/sis. Which one is HARDER?
Improve Communication Skills with the Opposite Sex
Males and females differences carry well into their communication skills. But hey, that's why you're here. You're either wondering why females can be so emotional or why men act like egotistic apes. Below is some tips to help you improve your communication skills with the opposite sex.
You can improve communication skills with the man or woman in your life, once you understand the differences in how the genders communicate.
1. Men and women talk in different places.
If you want to improve your communication skills you'll want to understand the differences in style. Men will do most of their talking in public. Often, that means at their workplace.
Since women talk to promote intimacy, most female conversations will take place in a private setting, at home. This explains that old problem of the man coming home from work and the woman trying to engage him in conversation and not getting a really eager participant.
Whether they both work out of the home, or not, one has already done a lot of talking already today.
2. The genders talk about different things.
Listen in on any males talking and you'll see that sports, money and business dominate the conversations. In the next room a group of women discuss some of the people in their lives, feelings and relationships.
3. What are the reasons men and women talk?
Women usually talk to express themselves, to connect with the other person and to support others. Men talk to fix problems or compete with other men.
4. The genders speech patterns differ.
Men don't tend to add decorations to their speech the way women do. Women use intensifiers like ‘very’, ‘really’ and ‘much’. Often a woman will add, ‘isn't it?’ or ‘doesn't it?’ which men perceive as sounding unsure or tentative.
5. They choose different words.
It's not often you'll hear a man say a baby is adorable. Men use words to say what they have to say and then move on. Women want to share the experience of conversation and will use emotions and senses in their conversations. Men find that frustrating.
To improve communications skills both genders should understand that the particular words a man uses would not likely be used by a female and vice versa.
6. Giving Feedback and asking questions.
It's a common joke that men never ask for directions when driving. They are just not question askers, generally. If they do, it's only to gather information.
For a woman, asking a question serves two purposes. One, they want to gather information and two; they want to develop closeness in the relationship. They will sometimes ask questions they already know the answer to, which often puzzles men.
Furthermore, when giving feedback, men can be blunt and direct. Asking them what they think about a certain situation can lead to an answer like: "That's crap!" When it is in answer to a woman's question about an idea, the bluntness of his answer might hurt her feelings.
Men answer to the question, not the person. Women have to learn to not take it as a personal attack. Women tend to answer requests for feedback with a little more sensitivity and tact for that reason - they don't want the other person to be offended.
We can improve communication skills once we understand the different styles that the genders use to converse. The differences in how men and women talk continues to create both smiles and frustrations!
You can improve communication skills with the man or woman in your life, once you understand the differences in how the genders communicate.
1. Men and women talk in different places.
If you want to improve your communication skills you'll want to understand the differences in style. Men will do most of their talking in public. Often, that means at their workplace.
Since women talk to promote intimacy, most female conversations will take place in a private setting, at home. This explains that old problem of the man coming home from work and the woman trying to engage him in conversation and not getting a really eager participant.
Whether they both work out of the home, or not, one has already done a lot of talking already today.
2. The genders talk about different things.
Listen in on any males talking and you'll see that sports, money and business dominate the conversations. In the next room a group of women discuss some of the people in their lives, feelings and relationships.
3. What are the reasons men and women talk?
Women usually talk to express themselves, to connect with the other person and to support others. Men talk to fix problems or compete with other men.
4. The genders speech patterns differ.
Men don't tend to add decorations to their speech the way women do. Women use intensifiers like ‘very’, ‘really’ and ‘much’. Often a woman will add, ‘isn't it?’ or ‘doesn't it?’ which men perceive as sounding unsure or tentative.
5. They choose different words.
It's not often you'll hear a man say a baby is adorable. Men use words to say what they have to say and then move on. Women want to share the experience of conversation and will use emotions and senses in their conversations. Men find that frustrating.
To improve communications skills both genders should understand that the particular words a man uses would not likely be used by a female and vice versa.
6. Giving Feedback and asking questions.
It's a common joke that men never ask for directions when driving. They are just not question askers, generally. If they do, it's only to gather information.
For a woman, asking a question serves two purposes. One, they want to gather information and two; they want to develop closeness in the relationship. They will sometimes ask questions they already know the answer to, which often puzzles men.
Furthermore, when giving feedback, men can be blunt and direct. Asking them what they think about a certain situation can lead to an answer like: "That's crap!" When it is in answer to a woman's question about an idea, the bluntness of his answer might hurt her feelings.
Men answer to the question, not the person. Women have to learn to not take it as a personal attack. Women tend to answer requests for feedback with a little more sensitivity and tact for that reason - they don't want the other person to be offended.
We can improve communication skills once we understand the different styles that the genders use to converse. The differences in how men and women talk continues to create both smiles and frustrations!
The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes You Probably Make With Women - And What To Do About It
Here are the top ten reasons why men fail with women with helps to avoid each one of these common, deadly mistakes. You'll be surprised at these mistakes which most guys make trying to attract women, since they mainly revolve around the common idea of 'being nice'.
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her To Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing"How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her To Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing"How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
What Makes a Man Attractive to Women?
Show me a man who is PASSIONATE and PROFICIENT at what he does. Those are two separate ideas, so let’s not conflate them.
Passion is all about effort and energy and devotion. It’s about living, breathing, and embodying something. It’s about being so immersed in a subject that one can’t tell where it begins and you end.
A writer who comes home from his day job to squeeze in two hours of creative thought before meeting his girlfriend for dinner? Passionate.
A swimmer who wakes up at 5:30am every day to train for the Olympics? Passionate
Those weird kids that memorize the dictionary for the national spelling bee? Passionate
The flip side of the passion coin are people who are truly gifted but squander their gifts due to indifference, fear, or laziness. For example:
The musician who wants to be in a band, but refuses to answer ads to audition.
The entrepreneur who has an amazing business idea but won’t share his idea to begin developing it.
The woman who would love to be a party planner but won’t apprentice on the side to learn the craft.
Notice the word “but” in each sentence. “But” is merely an excuse that we believe is reasonable. When you remove the “but”, no excuse is reasonable. Unreasonable people are the one who move mountains.
Reasonable people can always find a reason to say “why not”. Such people don’t command respect.
Passionate people do.
Except in one instance. There’s a type of passionate person who, despite their love and drive, fails to inspire others around them. This is the passionate person who’s not very skilled.
Hate to say it, but just ‘cause you love doing something doesn’t mean you’re good at it.
The world is filled with actors, writers, and musicians who are passionate but not particularly gifted. I remember meeting a 40ish woman who still thought she was going to be the next Julia Roberts. I recall an incomprehensible short story that a friend was trying to submit to Playboy. Lack of talent is not a crime, but rarely is it attractive. Lots of quality individuals have dreams that exceed their talents.
So what we’re left with is this basic formula:
Passionate + Bad = Delusional and Sad
Dispassionate + Good = Boring and Disappointing
Passionate + Proficient = Sexy and Inspiring
Ask women (and I have) what is it about a rock star that really gets them? It’s that combination of passion and proficiency. It’s the confidence exuded by someone who gets up on stage and performs, knowing that he can successfully entertain a crowd. Rock stars and athletes are just the most visible entertainers we have. But look around at people you find attractive in day to day life.
The guy who plays guitar at campfires.
The woman who gets the crowd on its feet on karaoke night.
The guy who can rewire the TV to have stereo sound.
The woman who can whip up a Thanksgiving dinner to remember.
You can talk all you want about tall, rich, cocky guys with big egos and fast cars.
But people who love what they do and are good at it are always attractive to women.
Passion is all about effort and energy and devotion. It’s about living, breathing, and embodying something. It’s about being so immersed in a subject that one can’t tell where it begins and you end.
A writer who comes home from his day job to squeeze in two hours of creative thought before meeting his girlfriend for dinner? Passionate.
A swimmer who wakes up at 5:30am every day to train for the Olympics? Passionate
Those weird kids that memorize the dictionary for the national spelling bee? Passionate
The flip side of the passion coin are people who are truly gifted but squander their gifts due to indifference, fear, or laziness. For example:
The musician who wants to be in a band, but refuses to answer ads to audition.
The entrepreneur who has an amazing business idea but won’t share his idea to begin developing it.
The woman who would love to be a party planner but won’t apprentice on the side to learn the craft.
Notice the word “but” in each sentence. “But” is merely an excuse that we believe is reasonable. When you remove the “but”, no excuse is reasonable. Unreasonable people are the one who move mountains.
Reasonable people can always find a reason to say “why not”. Such people don’t command respect.
Passionate people do.
Except in one instance. There’s a type of passionate person who, despite their love and drive, fails to inspire others around them. This is the passionate person who’s not very skilled.
Hate to say it, but just ‘cause you love doing something doesn’t mean you’re good at it.
The world is filled with actors, writers, and musicians who are passionate but not particularly gifted. I remember meeting a 40ish woman who still thought she was going to be the next Julia Roberts. I recall an incomprehensible short story that a friend was trying to submit to Playboy. Lack of talent is not a crime, but rarely is it attractive. Lots of quality individuals have dreams that exceed their talents.
So what we’re left with is this basic formula:
Passionate + Bad = Delusional and Sad
Dispassionate + Good = Boring and Disappointing
Passionate + Proficient = Sexy and Inspiring
Ask women (and I have) what is it about a rock star that really gets them? It’s that combination of passion and proficiency. It’s the confidence exuded by someone who gets up on stage and performs, knowing that he can successfully entertain a crowd. Rock stars and athletes are just the most visible entertainers we have. But look around at people you find attractive in day to day life.
The guy who plays guitar at campfires.
The woman who gets the crowd on its feet on karaoke night.
The guy who can rewire the TV to have stereo sound.
The woman who can whip up a Thanksgiving dinner to remember.
You can talk all you want about tall, rich, cocky guys with big egos and fast cars.
But people who love what they do and are good at it are always attractive to women.
The Benefits of Drinking Honey, A little article on the healthy benefits of honey
Honey has long been recognized as a natural remedy and has been used as a medicine for thousands of years. Health benefits of Honey - History of Honey, Mead, Royal Jelly
Perhaps your parents failed to mention it when they discussed the birds and the bees with you, but honey has long been known to have a multitude of healing powers with everything from relieving a sore throat, allergies, healing wounds, etc. It also goes great with peanut butter.
Research shows that a spoonful of honey is more effective than DM cough syrup in treating coughs - and is safe for children over 12 months old, according to Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine, December 2007.
Other research from the University of California, Davis reveals that honey consumption raises antioxidant levels. Honey soothes on contact and has well-established antioxidant and antimicrobial effects, which helps explain its contributions to wound healing.
In the study, 25 people were told to eat between four and 10 tablespoons of buckwheat honey, depending on their weight, each day for a month. They could eat the honey in almost any form, but it couldn't be baked or dissolved in tea. Many chose to eat straight from the spoon. Antioxidant levels rose in the participants. Antioxidants provide defense against free radicals, which cause cell damage.
Researchers discovered honey contained as many antioxidants - which combat the free radicals which can damage cells - as spinach, apples, oranges or strawberries. Scientists from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign say honey appears to have a "mild protective effect".
It was already known that honey contained varying levels of antioxidants, with dark honey having more than light. This is the first study to examine honey's effect on human blood.
In the study, researchers checked the blood of 25 men aged 18 - 68 over five weeks. They found drinking four tablespoons of honey mixed into a 16-ounce glass of water improved the antioxidant levels in their blood.
The team is currently conducting a study on rabbits to see if honey could slow atherosclerosis, or hardening of the arteries.
The types of flowers the bees pollinate determine flavor and color of honey. Buckwheat honey comes from the buckwheat plant and is dark in color with a distinct flavor. The darker shades of honey are believed to have more antioxidants. The study showed no weight gain in participants for the month they were consuming honey. And, some claimed that eating honey for breakfast actually made them feel full and satisfied.
Eating honey along with supplemental calcium appeared to enhance calcium absorption in rats, according to a study from Purdue University.
In addition, the researchers suggested that the absorption of calcium increased as the amount of honey taken was upped.
Sugar is a crystalline carbohydrate extracted from sugar cane and sugar beets. It is a non-nutritive empty calorie that robs the body of vitamins and minerals. Sugar is addicting. The biggest culprit? Soft drinks, which account for one-third of our total sugar intake.
Approximately one half of the human diet is derived directly or indirectly from crops pollinated by bees. Today honeybees are an essential part of a healthy agriculture economy. If you have allergies, honey can be beneficial. If you eat honey that is local to your area, it may prevent your seasonal allergies. Bees use the pollen from local plants and eventually it ends up in your honey.
Health-promoting compounds found in honey could make this ingredient a more attractive option for food makers currently using bulk sweeteners such as high-fructose corn syrup and looking to jump on board the growing health foods trend, say scientists in the US.
Researchers at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign say that honey may be a healthier alternative to corn syrup due to its higher level of antioxidants, compounds which are believed to fight cancer, heart disease and other diseases. Honey, which contains a number of antioxidant components that act as preservatives, also shows promise as a replacement for some synthetic antioxidants widely used as preservatives in salad dressings and other foods.
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Perhaps your parents failed to mention it when they discussed the birds and the bees with you, but honey has long been known to have a multitude of healing powers with everything from relieving a sore throat, allergies, healing wounds, etc. It also goes great with peanut butter.
Research shows that a spoonful of honey is more effective than DM cough syrup in treating coughs - and is safe for children over 12 months old, according to Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine, December 2007.
Other research from the University of California, Davis reveals that honey consumption raises antioxidant levels. Honey soothes on contact and has well-established antioxidant and antimicrobial effects, which helps explain its contributions to wound healing.
In the study, 25 people were told to eat between four and 10 tablespoons of buckwheat honey, depending on their weight, each day for a month. They could eat the honey in almost any form, but it couldn't be baked or dissolved in tea. Many chose to eat straight from the spoon. Antioxidant levels rose in the participants. Antioxidants provide defense against free radicals, which cause cell damage.
Researchers discovered honey contained as many antioxidants - which combat the free radicals which can damage cells - as spinach, apples, oranges or strawberries. Scientists from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign say honey appears to have a "mild protective effect".
It was already known that honey contained varying levels of antioxidants, with dark honey having more than light. This is the first study to examine honey's effect on human blood.
In the study, researchers checked the blood of 25 men aged 18 - 68 over five weeks. They found drinking four tablespoons of honey mixed into a 16-ounce glass of water improved the antioxidant levels in their blood.
The team is currently conducting a study on rabbits to see if honey could slow atherosclerosis, or hardening of the arteries.
The types of flowers the bees pollinate determine flavor and color of honey. Buckwheat honey comes from the buckwheat plant and is dark in color with a distinct flavor. The darker shades of honey are believed to have more antioxidants. The study showed no weight gain in participants for the month they were consuming honey. And, some claimed that eating honey for breakfast actually made them feel full and satisfied.
Eating honey along with supplemental calcium appeared to enhance calcium absorption in rats, according to a study from Purdue University.
In addition, the researchers suggested that the absorption of calcium increased as the amount of honey taken was upped.
Sugar is a crystalline carbohydrate extracted from sugar cane and sugar beets. It is a non-nutritive empty calorie that robs the body of vitamins and minerals. Sugar is addicting. The biggest culprit? Soft drinks, which account for one-third of our total sugar intake.
Approximately one half of the human diet is derived directly or indirectly from crops pollinated by bees. Today honeybees are an essential part of a healthy agriculture economy. If you have allergies, honey can be beneficial. If you eat honey that is local to your area, it may prevent your seasonal allergies. Bees use the pollen from local plants and eventually it ends up in your honey.
Health-promoting compounds found in honey could make this ingredient a more attractive option for food makers currently using bulk sweeteners such as high-fructose corn syrup and looking to jump on board the growing health foods trend, say scientists in the US.
Researchers at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign say that honey may be a healthier alternative to corn syrup due to its higher level of antioxidants, compounds which are believed to fight cancer, heart disease and other diseases. Honey, which contains a number of antioxidant components that act as preservatives, also shows promise as a replacement for some synthetic antioxidants widely used as preservatives in salad dressings and other foods.
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Four wives
Four wives
There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most. He adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her & gave her nothing but the best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's very proud of her and always wanted to show her off to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men!! He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.
Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.
One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!"
Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep my company? "No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word. The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant's heart.
The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated.
Then a voice called out: I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go!!" The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!"
Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives...
The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die.
Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.
The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.
The 1st wife is in fact our soul. Often neglected in our pursuit of material wealth and sensual pleasure. It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it's a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we're on our deathbed to lament.
Think about it.................
(O mankind, Keep your duty to your Lord and fear a Day when the parent will not be able to avail the child in aught, nor the child to avail the parent. Allah's promise is the very truth. Let not the life of the world beguile you, nor let the deceiver beguile you, in regard to Allah)
"If your heart gets broken by the one you truly love, don't let go of the love for the person, but let go of the person!"
There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most. He adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her & gave her nothing but the best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's very proud of her and always wanted to show her off to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men!! He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.
Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.
One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!"
Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep my company? "No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word. The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant's heart.
The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated.
Then a voice called out: I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go!!" The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!"
Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives...
The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die.
Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.
The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.
The 1st wife is in fact our soul. Often neglected in our pursuit of material wealth and sensual pleasure. It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it's a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we're on our deathbed to lament.
Think about it.................
(O mankind, Keep your duty to your Lord and fear a Day when the parent will not be able to avail the child in aught, nor the child to avail the parent. Allah's promise is the very truth. Let not the life of the world beguile you, nor let the deceiver beguile you, in regard to Allah)
"If your heart gets broken by the one you truly love, don't let go of the love for the person, but let go of the person!"
Sex can change things
Honestly sex can change a lot of things in a relationship, it's not something to just run into full speed and just because you don't want to be a virgin any more. Before you even think about sex you should ask yourself a few questions, a few of which may be:
Sex may be a great thing, but it also makes you extremely close with the person you have it with. You get connected in ways that you would not normally be connected to with a person. Are you willing to make that connection with another person? Are you willing to open yourself so fully and put yourself so far out there?
Great thing, it can honestly be one of the greatest things you do. But if you jump into it to quickly you may regret it in the long run. Don't think that you won't be cool if you don't have sex. Honestly you should have sex when you and your partner are ready, not when your pressured into it.
But honestly if you do have sex, don't be stupid, use protection. Birth control does not have the ability to stop a pregnancy one hundred percent, so it is best that even if your partner is on birth control that you use a condom as well. Also, always use a condom, not matter what the other person says. Honestly, do you want to have a kid at 14 and have to take care of the kid and have that being held over your head for the rest of your life. You honestly have the rest of your life to look forward too, don't let people push you into sex. Honestly if your still in the 14 to 19 age do you really wanna risk having a kid pop out? Do you honestly wanna have that over your head for the rest of your life?
If you are keeping a condom in your wallet remember that it only lasts for about a few days in your wallet. Your own body heat destroys the latex and will make the condom break on you. So replace it every few days.
Also don't risk listening to rumors like pool chemicals will kill the sperm, they are all bull shit. And even if they are not, do you really wanna risk it?
Now don't get me wrong, sex can be a great thing. It can bring to people so close that they can share everything with each other. It is honestly something that can change your life forever, it will make you be so close with your partner and it's a nice feeling.
So just take a look at everything I have said here and others have said to you. Don't feel that at 18 or 19 or even 20 that you should be jumping into sex because it's what everyone is doing. Honestly if your not ready then don't do it. But if you do have sex, then please unless you want a child, use a condom.
Comments and thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
- Do I honestly feel connected to this person and willing to take this step in our relationship?
- Am I willing to accept the changes that will come when two people have sex, not only to myself as a person but to the relationship. Both the good and the bad.
- Am I willing to change the risk of having a kid?
Sex may be a great thing, but it also makes you extremely close with the person you have it with. You get connected in ways that you would not normally be connected to with a person. Are you willing to make that connection with another person? Are you willing to open yourself so fully and put yourself so far out there?
Great thing, it can honestly be one of the greatest things you do. But if you jump into it to quickly you may regret it in the long run. Don't think that you won't be cool if you don't have sex. Honestly you should have sex when you and your partner are ready, not when your pressured into it.
But honestly if you do have sex, don't be stupid, use protection. Birth control does not have the ability to stop a pregnancy one hundred percent, so it is best that even if your partner is on birth control that you use a condom as well. Also, always use a condom, not matter what the other person says. Honestly, do you want to have a kid at 14 and have to take care of the kid and have that being held over your head for the rest of your life. You honestly have the rest of your life to look forward too, don't let people push you into sex. Honestly if your still in the 14 to 19 age do you really wanna risk having a kid pop out? Do you honestly wanna have that over your head for the rest of your life?
If you are keeping a condom in your wallet remember that it only lasts for about a few days in your wallet. Your own body heat destroys the latex and will make the condom break on you. So replace it every few days.
Also don't risk listening to rumors like pool chemicals will kill the sperm, they are all bull shit. And even if they are not, do you really wanna risk it?
Now don't get me wrong, sex can be a great thing. It can bring to people so close that they can share everything with each other. It is honestly something that can change your life forever, it will make you be so close with your partner and it's a nice feeling.
So just take a look at everything I have said here and others have said to you. Don't feel that at 18 or 19 or even 20 that you should be jumping into sex because it's what everyone is doing. Honestly if your not ready then don't do it. But if you do have sex, then please unless you want a child, use a condom.
Comments and thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Something to brighten your day...
Recently I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said "I love you and I wish you enough".
The daughter replied, "Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom".
They kissed and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where I was seated.
Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking "Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?"
"Yes, I have," I replied.
"Forgive me for asking but why is this a forever goodbye?"
"I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is -- the next trip back will be for my funeral" she said.
"When you were saying goodbye, I heard you say 'I wish you enough'. May
I ask what that means?
"She began to smile.
"That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone".
She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail she smiled even more.
"When we said 'I wish you enough' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them".
Then turning toward me she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory:
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
She then began to cry and walked away.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.
TAKE TIME TO LIVE.....
To all my friends and loved ones,
The daughter replied, "Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom".
They kissed and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where I was seated.
Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking "Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?"
"Yes, I have," I replied.
"Forgive me for asking but why is this a forever goodbye?"
"I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is -- the next trip back will be for my funeral" she said.
"When you were saying goodbye, I heard you say 'I wish you enough'. May
I ask what that means?
"She began to smile.
"That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone".
She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail she smiled even more.
"When we said 'I wish you enough' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them".
Then turning toward me she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory:
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
She then began to cry and walked away.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.
TAKE TIME TO LIVE.....
To all my friends and loved ones,
How to Make Out With a Girl, Learn to have fun and surprise any girl with your romantic skills
Learn to have fun and surprise any girl with your romantic skills.
Steps
1. Making-out is about the passion. If you don't have passion, don't read this. Most guys say they don't have passion, trust me, you do, you just have to find it. But if you're not confident, don't do it.
2. Make sure you are in a place you and your girl are comfortable in. Good places to start is a bed (note: some girls may feel awkward or nervous if you begin making out on a bed, she may think you want more than just kissing), a couch or even under the stars. One thing to keep in mind is the awkwardness of people walking in on you, so make sure your parents/siblings/friends aren't in the next room.
3. Music. Music is optional, however sparks fly a lot more when there is some good background music playing or music that you and your girl like. This step isn't essential and make sure you know what type of music your girl likes.
4. Starting. Starting is very important, can often be fun and can also be very awkward if you don't know what you're doing. Flirting is essential this step. The goal of flirting is to make a girl have fun. This can be accomplished by joking around, wrestling, teasing, or dancing " but remember too much can be too much, so moderation must be found.
5. During the process of flirting, you will find yourself physically closer to her and/or looking into her eyes. This is the point where the you must make the first kiss. Whatever you do, don't get nervous and if you already are, kissing will take that away. Lean your body closer to hers and gently pull her chin towards yours or brush her hair away from her eyes. Don't pucker up your lips like you kissing your Aunt Sally, but keep in a natural position. Now bring your lips closer to hers until they touch and slowly close your lips tighter and when you pull away after a second or so of contact open your lips back to a normal position. Now go in for a second kill and do the same thing. Do this two or three times. Don't kiss her lips in the same spot, move around and kiss her neck/forehead/nose/ears or kiss the area around her lips. This is the main part of making-out, however is very boring if its all you guys do.
6. Follow the tips below to make your making out experience less kissy-kissy.
Tips
•Sift through her hair with your fingers and brush her ears.
•Hold her like a baby. Some women are fragile and like to be handled accordingly.
•Don't kiss only her lips- share the wealth. Girls love it when you kiss their necks, particularly the spot where her shoulder connects to their neck. As well, licking or biting (GENTLY!) her ear (especially her earlobes and upper ear) can feel great, too. (Note: Some girls are more ticklish than others- Some may find that this tickles too much to feel good. Also if this is your first time kissing that girl, you may find this is something she is not comfortable doing- she'll let you know by moving away slightly or simply telling you it's not her thing. Just go back to her mouth)
•Break away momentarily. Then as you move back towards her to continue, touch your lips together gently but do not kiss- just tease her by sliding your lips across hers. This technique can drive her CRAZY and make her extremely passionate when you finally do kiss her.
•Look her in her eyes, but not while your kissing her, close your eyes while you kiss and when you pull back look in her eyes. This is difficult because your natural reaction is to look at her with your lips pressed against her. It is rude to have your eyes open during a kiss.
•Take a break and smile at her, then laugh softly. Girls love that.
•Before you kiss her, rub your thumb softly against the bottom of her lip or against her cheek and smile at her - she will usually smile or giggle and then take that chance to kiss her.
•Just press your lips against her and let her play with your lips.
•Tell her that she is beautiful/gorgeous.
•Don't get too fast, if you catch yourself going too fast, just slow down.
•Cuddle and hold her closer to you and look her in the eyes.
•Wet/Dry Kiss- don't make it too much of either! Saliva's pretty gross, because you've got to keep swallowing, and the 'gulping' sound isn't that attractive. Be sure to apply a bit of lip balm (not stick or gloss - too sticky and messy) to allow for a smooth kiss.
•Remember not to take total control of the situation. Let your partner make a few moves of their own.
•Don't be scared. If it's the first time for both of you, she'll probably feel just as nervous.
•Don't worry about how to move your tounge because if you practice on pillows or something it feels odd but when you're actually french kissing it will feel natural.
•It's a good idea to make a quick bathroom run (if you're at home) before you make a move for several reasons. You don't want to have to go to the bathroom in the middle of a good make-out session. Another tip is to hide a toothbrush and toothpaste/mouthwash in the nearest bathroom before your date if you're at your own residence. This allows you to ensure good breath before you swap spit. Going to the bathroom also gives you an excuse to change your position when you get back, allowing you to get closer to your partner to make the first move.
Warnings
•Keep your hands concentrated on her face, head or neck. Unless she loves it, DO NOT grab her butt/breasts/inner legs. Remember, this is just making out.
•BE GENTLE. Again, girls are very fragile and don't like to be man-handled.
•Please note that girls do have boobs that can be painful if you hug TOO tight
•DO NOT stick your tongue in her nose.
•You probably shouldn't tell the girl you read a guide on how to kiss (unless you're SURE she'd think it was cute).
•If she doesn't seem to like it, stop immediately.
•Many girls are not comfortable with french kissing. Especially at first!
•Do not chew gum if it is your first time. Gum tends to produce saliva more than mints do. If you do chew gum, and both of you are comfortable, playfully swap it between the two of you.
•It might help if you put on a scary movie because it can make you two get close so then you can move in for the kiss.( But not too scary because then she will not enjoy your time together)
•DO NOT lick her neck, ears, or anything if she isn't into. If she likes that kind of thing or you do, talk about and see how it goes.
•DO NOT start to pull off her shirt/bra strap. Girls usually do not like this as it is a form of manhandling and they'll feel uncomfortable.
Things You'll Need
•Mints/Gum/Binaca before you start.
•Lit scented candles can make for a romantic session.
Steps
1. Making-out is about the passion. If you don't have passion, don't read this. Most guys say they don't have passion, trust me, you do, you just have to find it. But if you're not confident, don't do it.
2. Make sure you are in a place you and your girl are comfortable in. Good places to start is a bed (note: some girls may feel awkward or nervous if you begin making out on a bed, she may think you want more than just kissing), a couch or even under the stars. One thing to keep in mind is the awkwardness of people walking in on you, so make sure your parents/siblings/friends aren't in the next room.
3. Music. Music is optional, however sparks fly a lot more when there is some good background music playing or music that you and your girl like. This step isn't essential and make sure you know what type of music your girl likes.
4. Starting. Starting is very important, can often be fun and can also be very awkward if you don't know what you're doing. Flirting is essential this step. The goal of flirting is to make a girl have fun. This can be accomplished by joking around, wrestling, teasing, or dancing " but remember too much can be too much, so moderation must be found.
5. During the process of flirting, you will find yourself physically closer to her and/or looking into her eyes. This is the point where the you must make the first kiss. Whatever you do, don't get nervous and if you already are, kissing will take that away. Lean your body closer to hers and gently pull her chin towards yours or brush her hair away from her eyes. Don't pucker up your lips like you kissing your Aunt Sally, but keep in a natural position. Now bring your lips closer to hers until they touch and slowly close your lips tighter and when you pull away after a second or so of contact open your lips back to a normal position. Now go in for a second kill and do the same thing. Do this two or three times. Don't kiss her lips in the same spot, move around and kiss her neck/forehead/nose/ears or kiss the area around her lips. This is the main part of making-out, however is very boring if its all you guys do.
6. Follow the tips below to make your making out experience less kissy-kissy.
Tips
•Sift through her hair with your fingers and brush her ears.
•Hold her like a baby. Some women are fragile and like to be handled accordingly.
•Don't kiss only her lips- share the wealth. Girls love it when you kiss their necks, particularly the spot where her shoulder connects to their neck. As well, licking or biting (GENTLY!) her ear (especially her earlobes and upper ear) can feel great, too. (Note: Some girls are more ticklish than others- Some may find that this tickles too much to feel good. Also if this is your first time kissing that girl, you may find this is something she is not comfortable doing- she'll let you know by moving away slightly or simply telling you it's not her thing. Just go back to her mouth)
•Break away momentarily. Then as you move back towards her to continue, touch your lips together gently but do not kiss- just tease her by sliding your lips across hers. This technique can drive her CRAZY and make her extremely passionate when you finally do kiss her.
•Look her in her eyes, but not while your kissing her, close your eyes while you kiss and when you pull back look in her eyes. This is difficult because your natural reaction is to look at her with your lips pressed against her. It is rude to have your eyes open during a kiss.
•Take a break and smile at her, then laugh softly. Girls love that.
•Before you kiss her, rub your thumb softly against the bottom of her lip or against her cheek and smile at her - she will usually smile or giggle and then take that chance to kiss her.
•Just press your lips against her and let her play with your lips.
•Tell her that she is beautiful/gorgeous.
•Don't get too fast, if you catch yourself going too fast, just slow down.
•Cuddle and hold her closer to you and look her in the eyes.
•Wet/Dry Kiss- don't make it too much of either! Saliva's pretty gross, because you've got to keep swallowing, and the 'gulping' sound isn't that attractive. Be sure to apply a bit of lip balm (not stick or gloss - too sticky and messy) to allow for a smooth kiss.
•Remember not to take total control of the situation. Let your partner make a few moves of their own.
•Don't be scared. If it's the first time for both of you, she'll probably feel just as nervous.
•Don't worry about how to move your tounge because if you practice on pillows or something it feels odd but when you're actually french kissing it will feel natural.
•It's a good idea to make a quick bathroom run (if you're at home) before you make a move for several reasons. You don't want to have to go to the bathroom in the middle of a good make-out session. Another tip is to hide a toothbrush and toothpaste/mouthwash in the nearest bathroom before your date if you're at your own residence. This allows you to ensure good breath before you swap spit. Going to the bathroom also gives you an excuse to change your position when you get back, allowing you to get closer to your partner to make the first move.
Warnings
•Keep your hands concentrated on her face, head or neck. Unless she loves it, DO NOT grab her butt/breasts/inner legs. Remember, this is just making out.
•BE GENTLE. Again, girls are very fragile and don't like to be man-handled.
•Please note that girls do have boobs that can be painful if you hug TOO tight
•DO NOT stick your tongue in her nose.
•You probably shouldn't tell the girl you read a guide on how to kiss (unless you're SURE she'd think it was cute).
•If she doesn't seem to like it, stop immediately.
•Many girls are not comfortable with french kissing. Especially at first!
•Do not chew gum if it is your first time. Gum tends to produce saliva more than mints do. If you do chew gum, and both of you are comfortable, playfully swap it between the two of you.
•It might help if you put on a scary movie because it can make you two get close so then you can move in for the kiss.( But not too scary because then she will not enjoy your time together)
•DO NOT lick her neck, ears, or anything if she isn't into. If she likes that kind of thing or you do, talk about and see how it goes.
•DO NOT start to pull off her shirt/bra strap. Girls usually do not like this as it is a form of manhandling and they'll feel uncomfortable.
Things You'll Need
•Mints/Gum/Binaca before you start.
•Lit scented candles can make for a romantic session.
Maybe some of you are familiar to this nice story
One day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is love? How can I find it?"
The teacher answered, "There's a large wheat field in front. Walk there
without turning back, and take just one leaf. If you can find one leaf
that you think is extraordinary than all the other leaves, it means you
have found love."
So Plato walked... and not long after that, he came back empty handed. The
teacher asked him, "Why didn't you bring any leaf?"
Plato replied, "I can only bring just one leaf and when I walk, I can't
turn back. Actually, I have found one extraordinary leaf, but I dont know
whether there's anymore extraordinary leaf ahead, so I didn't take that
leaf. When I walked further, I realized that all the other leaves I found
are not as extraordinary as I've found previously. In the end, I didn't
take any single leaf."
Then the teacher told him, "So... that is love.... And you lost it!"
Another day, Plato asked his teacher again, "What is marriage? How do I
know that I have found it?"
The teacher answered, "There is a forest in front. Please walk there and
don't look back.You can only cut one tree, and cut the one that you think
is the highest, because that means you have found marriage."
Plato walks there, and he came back not long after that bringing one tree.
The tree is not a very good tree and not a very tall one either. It's just
a plain and ordinary tree.
The teacher asked him, "Why did you cut that kind of tree?" Plato
answered, "Because, according to my previous experience, afterwalking thru
the wheat field, I came back with
nothing. So this time, when I saw this tree, and I think this tree is not
so bad, I decided to cut it and bring it here. I don't want to risk losing
it again."
And the teacher said, "Well... that is marriage and you found it! Marriage
is the continuity of love... The more you look for love, you will find
nothing... Love is in your heart... the place where you can control your
desire and your hope to find something better... When you have endless
hope and wish of love, you will only get emptiness ..because you wont get
anything and time can not be turned back. Accept love for what it is...
Marriage is a process of taking chances, and you choose the best option
among all the alternatives... If you want to have a perfect match and a
perfect marriage, you are wasting
time... because there is no perfect marriage."
The teacher answered, "There's a large wheat field in front. Walk there
without turning back, and take just one leaf. If you can find one leaf
that you think is extraordinary than all the other leaves, it means you
have found love."
So Plato walked... and not long after that, he came back empty handed. The
teacher asked him, "Why didn't you bring any leaf?"
Plato replied, "I can only bring just one leaf and when I walk, I can't
turn back. Actually, I have found one extraordinary leaf, but I dont know
whether there's anymore extraordinary leaf ahead, so I didn't take that
leaf. When I walked further, I realized that all the other leaves I found
are not as extraordinary as I've found previously. In the end, I didn't
take any single leaf."
Then the teacher told him, "So... that is love.... And you lost it!"
Another day, Plato asked his teacher again, "What is marriage? How do I
know that I have found it?"
The teacher answered, "There is a forest in front. Please walk there and
don't look back.You can only cut one tree, and cut the one that you think
is the highest, because that means you have found marriage."
Plato walks there, and he came back not long after that bringing one tree.
The tree is not a very good tree and not a very tall one either. It's just
a plain and ordinary tree.
The teacher asked him, "Why did you cut that kind of tree?" Plato
answered, "Because, according to my previous experience, afterwalking thru
the wheat field, I came back with
nothing. So this time, when I saw this tree, and I think this tree is not
so bad, I decided to cut it and bring it here. I don't want to risk losing
it again."
And the teacher said, "Well... that is marriage and you found it! Marriage
is the continuity of love... The more you look for love, you will find
nothing... Love is in your heart... the place where you can control your
desire and your hope to find something better... When you have endless
hope and wish of love, you will only get emptiness ..because you wont get
anything and time can not be turned back. Accept love for what it is...
Marriage is a process of taking chances, and you choose the best option
among all the alternatives... If you want to have a perfect match and a
perfect marriage, you are wasting
time... because there is no perfect marriage."
10 reasons why PCs crash you must Know
Fatal error: the system has become unstable or is busy," it says. "Enter to return to Windows or press Control-Alt-Delete to restart your computer. If you do this you will lose any unsaved information in all open applications."
You have just been struck by the Blue Screen of Death. Anyone who uses Mcft Windows will be familiar with this. What can you do? More importantly, how can you prevent it happening?
1 Hardware conflict
The number one reason why Windows crashes is hardware conflict. Each hardware device communicates to other devices through an interrupt request channel (IRQ). These are supposed to be unique for each device.
For example, a printer usually connects internally on IRQ 7. The keyboard usually uses IRQ 1 and the floppy disk drive IRQ 6. Each device will try to hog a single IRQ for itself.
If there are a lot of devices, or if they are not installed properly, two of them may end up sharing the same IRQ number. When the user tries to use both devices at the same time, a crash can happen. The way to check if your computer has a hardware conflict is through the following route:
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-System-Device Manager.
Often if a device has a problem a yellow '!' appears next to its description in the Device Manager. Highlight Computer (in the Device Manager) and press Properties to see the IRQ numbers used by your computer. If the IRQ number appears twice, two devices may be using it.
Sometimes a device might share an IRQ with something described as 'IRQ holder for PCI steering'. This can be ignored. The best way to fix this problem is to remove the problem device and reinstall it.
Sometimes you may have to find more recent drivers on the internet to make the device function properly. A good resource is www.driverguide.com. If the device is a soundcard, or a modem, it can often be fixed by moving it to a different slot on the motherboard (be careful about opening your computer, as you may void the warranty).
When working inside a computer you should switch it off, unplug the mains lead and touch an unpainted metal surface to discharge any static electricity.
To be fair to Mcft, the problem with IRQ numbers is not of its making. It is a legacy problem going back to the first PC designs using the IBM 8086 chip. Initially there were only eight IRQs. Today there are 16 IRQs in a PC. It is easy to run out of them. There are plans to increase the number of IRQs in future designs.
2 Bad Ram
Ram (random-access memory) problems might bring on the blue screen of death with a message saying Fatal Exception Error. A fatal error indicates a serious hardware problem. Sometimes it may mean a part is damaged and will need replacing.
But a fatal error caused by Ram might be caused by a mismatch of chips. For example, mixing 70-nanosecond (70ns) Ram with 60ns Ram will usually force the computer to run all the Ram at the slower speed. This will often crash the machine if the Ram is overworked.
One way around this problem is to enter the BIOS settings and increase the wait state of the Ram. This can make it more stable. Another way to troubleshoot a suspected Ram problem is to rearrange the Ram chips on the motherboard, or take some of them out. Then try to repeat the circumstances that caused the crash. When handling Ram try not to touch the gold connections, as they can be easily damaged.
Parity error messages also refer to Ram. Modern Ram chips are either parity (ECC) or non parity (non-ECC). It is best not to mix the two types, as this can be a cause of trouble.
EMM386 error messages refer to memory problems but may not be connected to bad Ram. This may be due to free memory problems often linked to old Dos-based programmes.
3 BIOS settings
Every motherboard is supplied with a range of chipset settings that are decided in the factory. A common way to access these settings is to press the F2 or delete button during the first few seconds of a boot-up.
Once inside the BIOS, great care should be taken. It is a good idea to write down on a piece of paper all the settings that appear on the screen. That way, if you change something and the computer becomes more unstable, you will know what settings to revert to.
A common BIOS error concerns the CAS latency. This refers to the Ram. Older EDO (extended data out) Ram has a CAS latency of 3. Newer SDRam has a CAS latency of 2. Setting the wrong figure can cause the Ram to lock up and freeze the computer's display.
Mcft Windows is better at allocating IRQ numbers than any BIOS. If possible set the IRQ numbers to Auto in the BIOS. This will allow Windows to allocate the IRQ numbers (make sure the BIOS setting for Plug and Play OS is switched to 'yes' to allow Windows to do this.).
4 Hard disk drives
After a few weeks, the information on a hard disk drive starts to become piecemeal or fragmented. It is a good idea to defragment the hard disk every week or so, to prevent the disk from causing a screen freeze. Go to
* Start-Programs-Accessories-System Tools-Disk Defragmenter
This will start the procedure. You will be unable to write data to the hard drive (to save it) while the disk is defragmenting, so it is a good idea to schedule the procedure for a period of inactivity using the Task Scheduler.
The Task Scheduler should be one of the small icons on the bottom right of the Windows opening page (the desktop).
Some lockups and screen freezes caused by hard disk problems can be solved by reducing the read-ahead optimisation. This can be adjusted by going to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-System Icon-Performance-File System-Hard Disk.
Hard disks will slow down and crash if they are too full. Do some housekeeping on your hard drive every few months and free some space on it. Open the Windows folder on the C drive and find the Temporary Internet Files folder. Deleting the contents (not the folder) can free a lot of space.
Empty the Recycle Bin every week to free more space. Hard disk drives should be scanned every week for errors or bad sectors. Go to
* Start-Programs-Accessories-System Tools-ScanDisk
Otherwise assign the Task Scheduler to perform this operation at night when the computer is not in use.
5 Fatal OE exceptions and VXD errors
Fatal OE exception errors and VXD errors are often caused by video card problems.
These can often be resolved easily by reducing the resolution of the video display. Go to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-Display-Settings
Here you should slide the screen area bar to the left. Take a look at the colour settings on the left of that window. For most desktops, high colour 16-bit depth is adequate.
If the screen freezes or you experience system lockups it might be due to the video card. Make sure it does not have a hardware conflict. Go to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-System-Device Manager
Here, select the + beside Display Adapter. A line of text describing your video card should appear. Select it (make it blue) and press properties. Then select Resources and select each line in the window. Look for a message that says No Conflicts.
If you have video card hardware conflict, you will see it here. Be careful at this point and make a note of everything you do in case you make things worse.
The way to resolve a hardware conflict is to uncheck the Use Automatic Settings box and hit the Change Settings button. You are searching for a setting that will display a No Conflicts message.
Another useful way to resolve video problems is to go to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-System-Performance-Graphics
Here you should move the Hardware Acceleration slider to the left. As ever, the most common cause of problems relating to graphics cards is old or faulty drivers (a driver is a small piece of software used by a computer to communicate with a device).
Look up your video card's manufacturer on the internet and search for the most recent drivers for it.
6 Viruses
Often the first sign of a virus infection is instability. Some viruses erase the boot sector of a hard drive, making it impossible to start. This is why it is a good idea to create a Windows start-up disk. Go to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-Add/Remove Programs
Here, look for the Start Up Disk tab. Virus protection requires constant vigilance.
A virus scanner requires a list of virus signatures in order to be able to identify viruses. These signatures are stored in a DAT file. DAT files should be updated weekly from the website of your antivirus software manufacturer.
An excellent antivirus programme is McAfee VirusScan by Network Associates ( www.nai.com). Another is Norton AntiVirus 2000, made by Symantec ( www.symantec.com).
7 Printers
The action of sending a document to print creates a bigger file, often called a postscript file.
Printers have only a small amount of memory, called a buffer. This can be easily overloaded. Printing a document also uses a considerable amount of CPU power. This will also slow down the computer's performance.
If the printer is trying to print unusual characters, these might not be recognised, and can crash the computer. Sometimes printers will not recover from a crash because of confusion in the buffer. A good way to clear the buffer is to unplug the printer for ten seconds. Booting up from a powerless state, also called a cold boot, will restore the printer's default settings and you may be able to carry on.
8 Software
A common cause of computer crash is faulty or badly-installed software. Often the problem can be cured by uninstalling the software and then reinstalling it. Use Norton Uninstall or Uninstall Shield to remove an application from your system properly. This will also remove references to the programme in the System Registry and leaves the way clear for a completely fresh copy.
The System Registry can be corrupted by old references to obsolete software that you thought was uninstalled. Use Reg Cleaner by Jouni Vuorio to clean up the System Registry and remove obsolete entries. It works on Windows 95, Windows 98, Windows 98 SE (Second Edition), Windows Millennium Edition (ME), NT4 and Windows 2000.
Read the instructions and use it carefully so you don't do permanent damage to the Registry. If the Registry is damaged you will have to reinstall your operating system. Reg Cleaner can be obtained from www.jv16.org
Often a Windows problem can be resolved by entering Safe Mode. This can be done during start-up. When you see the message "Starting Windows" press F4. This should take you into Safe Mode.
Safe Mode loads a minimum of drivers. It allows you to find and fix problems that prevent Windows from loading properly.
Sometimes installing Windows is difficult because of unsuitable BIOS settings. If you keep getting SUWIN error messages (Windows setup) during the Windows installation, then try entering the BIOS and disabling the CPU internal cache. Try to disable the Level 2 (L2) cache if that doesn't work.
Remember to restore all the BIOS settings back to their former settings following installation.
9 Overheating
Central processing units (CPUs) are usually equipped with fans to keep them cool. If the fan fails or if the CPU gets old it may start to overheat and generate a particular kind of error called a kernel error. This is a common problem in chips that have been overclocked to operate at higher speeds than they are supposed to.
One remedy is to get a bigger better fan and install it on top of the CPU. Specialist cooling fans/heatsinks are available from www.computernerd.com or www.coolit.com
CPU problems can often be fixed by disabling the CPU internal cache in the BIOS. This will make the machine run more slowly, but it should also be more stable.
10 Power supply problems
With all the new construction going on around the country the steady supply of electricity has become disrupted. A power surge or spike can crash a computer as easily as a power cut.
If this has become a nuisance for you then consider buying a uninterrupted power supply (UPS). This will give you a clean power supply when there is electricity, and it will give you a few minutes to perform a controlled shutdown in case of a power cut.
It is a good investment if your data are critical, because a power cut will cause any unsaved data to be lost.
Don't forget to say thanks...
You have just been struck by the Blue Screen of Death. Anyone who uses Mcft Windows will be familiar with this. What can you do? More importantly, how can you prevent it happening?
1 Hardware conflict
The number one reason why Windows crashes is hardware conflict. Each hardware device communicates to other devices through an interrupt request channel (IRQ). These are supposed to be unique for each device.
For example, a printer usually connects internally on IRQ 7. The keyboard usually uses IRQ 1 and the floppy disk drive IRQ 6. Each device will try to hog a single IRQ for itself.
If there are a lot of devices, or if they are not installed properly, two of them may end up sharing the same IRQ number. When the user tries to use both devices at the same time, a crash can happen. The way to check if your computer has a hardware conflict is through the following route:
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-System-Device Manager.
Often if a device has a problem a yellow '!' appears next to its description in the Device Manager. Highlight Computer (in the Device Manager) and press Properties to see the IRQ numbers used by your computer. If the IRQ number appears twice, two devices may be using it.
Sometimes a device might share an IRQ with something described as 'IRQ holder for PCI steering'. This can be ignored. The best way to fix this problem is to remove the problem device and reinstall it.
Sometimes you may have to find more recent drivers on the internet to make the device function properly. A good resource is www.driverguide.com. If the device is a soundcard, or a modem, it can often be fixed by moving it to a different slot on the motherboard (be careful about opening your computer, as you may void the warranty).
When working inside a computer you should switch it off, unplug the mains lead and touch an unpainted metal surface to discharge any static electricity.
To be fair to Mcft, the problem with IRQ numbers is not of its making. It is a legacy problem going back to the first PC designs using the IBM 8086 chip. Initially there were only eight IRQs. Today there are 16 IRQs in a PC. It is easy to run out of them. There are plans to increase the number of IRQs in future designs.
2 Bad Ram
Ram (random-access memory) problems might bring on the blue screen of death with a message saying Fatal Exception Error. A fatal error indicates a serious hardware problem. Sometimes it may mean a part is damaged and will need replacing.
But a fatal error caused by Ram might be caused by a mismatch of chips. For example, mixing 70-nanosecond (70ns) Ram with 60ns Ram will usually force the computer to run all the Ram at the slower speed. This will often crash the machine if the Ram is overworked.
One way around this problem is to enter the BIOS settings and increase the wait state of the Ram. This can make it more stable. Another way to troubleshoot a suspected Ram problem is to rearrange the Ram chips on the motherboard, or take some of them out. Then try to repeat the circumstances that caused the crash. When handling Ram try not to touch the gold connections, as they can be easily damaged.
Parity error messages also refer to Ram. Modern Ram chips are either parity (ECC) or non parity (non-ECC). It is best not to mix the two types, as this can be a cause of trouble.
EMM386 error messages refer to memory problems but may not be connected to bad Ram. This may be due to free memory problems often linked to old Dos-based programmes.
3 BIOS settings
Every motherboard is supplied with a range of chipset settings that are decided in the factory. A common way to access these settings is to press the F2 or delete button during the first few seconds of a boot-up.
Once inside the BIOS, great care should be taken. It is a good idea to write down on a piece of paper all the settings that appear on the screen. That way, if you change something and the computer becomes more unstable, you will know what settings to revert to.
A common BIOS error concerns the CAS latency. This refers to the Ram. Older EDO (extended data out) Ram has a CAS latency of 3. Newer SDRam has a CAS latency of 2. Setting the wrong figure can cause the Ram to lock up and freeze the computer's display.
Mcft Windows is better at allocating IRQ numbers than any BIOS. If possible set the IRQ numbers to Auto in the BIOS. This will allow Windows to allocate the IRQ numbers (make sure the BIOS setting for Plug and Play OS is switched to 'yes' to allow Windows to do this.).
4 Hard disk drives
After a few weeks, the information on a hard disk drive starts to become piecemeal or fragmented. It is a good idea to defragment the hard disk every week or so, to prevent the disk from causing a screen freeze. Go to
* Start-Programs-Accessories-System Tools-Disk Defragmenter
This will start the procedure. You will be unable to write data to the hard drive (to save it) while the disk is defragmenting, so it is a good idea to schedule the procedure for a period of inactivity using the Task Scheduler.
The Task Scheduler should be one of the small icons on the bottom right of the Windows opening page (the desktop).
Some lockups and screen freezes caused by hard disk problems can be solved by reducing the read-ahead optimisation. This can be adjusted by going to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-System Icon-Performance-File System-Hard Disk.
Hard disks will slow down and crash if they are too full. Do some housekeeping on your hard drive every few months and free some space on it. Open the Windows folder on the C drive and find the Temporary Internet Files folder. Deleting the contents (not the folder) can free a lot of space.
Empty the Recycle Bin every week to free more space. Hard disk drives should be scanned every week for errors or bad sectors. Go to
* Start-Programs-Accessories-System Tools-ScanDisk
Otherwise assign the Task Scheduler to perform this operation at night when the computer is not in use.
5 Fatal OE exceptions and VXD errors
Fatal OE exception errors and VXD errors are often caused by video card problems.
These can often be resolved easily by reducing the resolution of the video display. Go to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-Display-Settings
Here you should slide the screen area bar to the left. Take a look at the colour settings on the left of that window. For most desktops, high colour 16-bit depth is adequate.
If the screen freezes or you experience system lockups it might be due to the video card. Make sure it does not have a hardware conflict. Go to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-System-Device Manager
Here, select the + beside Display Adapter. A line of text describing your video card should appear. Select it (make it blue) and press properties. Then select Resources and select each line in the window. Look for a message that says No Conflicts.
If you have video card hardware conflict, you will see it here. Be careful at this point and make a note of everything you do in case you make things worse.
The way to resolve a hardware conflict is to uncheck the Use Automatic Settings box and hit the Change Settings button. You are searching for a setting that will display a No Conflicts message.
Another useful way to resolve video problems is to go to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-System-Performance-Graphics
Here you should move the Hardware Acceleration slider to the left. As ever, the most common cause of problems relating to graphics cards is old or faulty drivers (a driver is a small piece of software used by a computer to communicate with a device).
Look up your video card's manufacturer on the internet and search for the most recent drivers for it.
6 Viruses
Often the first sign of a virus infection is instability. Some viruses erase the boot sector of a hard drive, making it impossible to start. This is why it is a good idea to create a Windows start-up disk. Go to
* Start-Settings-Control Panel-Add/Remove Programs
Here, look for the Start Up Disk tab. Virus protection requires constant vigilance.
A virus scanner requires a list of virus signatures in order to be able to identify viruses. These signatures are stored in a DAT file. DAT files should be updated weekly from the website of your antivirus software manufacturer.
An excellent antivirus programme is McAfee VirusScan by Network Associates ( www.nai.com). Another is Norton AntiVirus 2000, made by Symantec ( www.symantec.com).
7 Printers
The action of sending a document to print creates a bigger file, often called a postscript file.
Printers have only a small amount of memory, called a buffer. This can be easily overloaded. Printing a document also uses a considerable amount of CPU power. This will also slow down the computer's performance.
If the printer is trying to print unusual characters, these might not be recognised, and can crash the computer. Sometimes printers will not recover from a crash because of confusion in the buffer. A good way to clear the buffer is to unplug the printer for ten seconds. Booting up from a powerless state, also called a cold boot, will restore the printer's default settings and you may be able to carry on.
8 Software
A common cause of computer crash is faulty or badly-installed software. Often the problem can be cured by uninstalling the software and then reinstalling it. Use Norton Uninstall or Uninstall Shield to remove an application from your system properly. This will also remove references to the programme in the System Registry and leaves the way clear for a completely fresh copy.
The System Registry can be corrupted by old references to obsolete software that you thought was uninstalled. Use Reg Cleaner by Jouni Vuorio to clean up the System Registry and remove obsolete entries. It works on Windows 95, Windows 98, Windows 98 SE (Second Edition), Windows Millennium Edition (ME), NT4 and Windows 2000.
Read the instructions and use it carefully so you don't do permanent damage to the Registry. If the Registry is damaged you will have to reinstall your operating system. Reg Cleaner can be obtained from www.jv16.org
Often a Windows problem can be resolved by entering Safe Mode. This can be done during start-up. When you see the message "Starting Windows" press F4. This should take you into Safe Mode.
Safe Mode loads a minimum of drivers. It allows you to find and fix problems that prevent Windows from loading properly.
Sometimes installing Windows is difficult because of unsuitable BIOS settings. If you keep getting SUWIN error messages (Windows setup) during the Windows installation, then try entering the BIOS and disabling the CPU internal cache. Try to disable the Level 2 (L2) cache if that doesn't work.
Remember to restore all the BIOS settings back to their former settings following installation.
9 Overheating
Central processing units (CPUs) are usually equipped with fans to keep them cool. If the fan fails or if the CPU gets old it may start to overheat and generate a particular kind of error called a kernel error. This is a common problem in chips that have been overclocked to operate at higher speeds than they are supposed to.
One remedy is to get a bigger better fan and install it on top of the CPU. Specialist cooling fans/heatsinks are available from www.computernerd.com or www.coolit.com
CPU problems can often be fixed by disabling the CPU internal cache in the BIOS. This will make the machine run more slowly, but it should also be more stable.
10 Power supply problems
With all the new construction going on around the country the steady supply of electricity has become disrupted. A power surge or spike can crash a computer as easily as a power cut.
If this has become a nuisance for you then consider buying a uninterrupted power supply (UPS). This will give you a clean power supply when there is electricity, and it will give you a few minutes to perform a controlled shutdown in case of a power cut.
It is a good investment if your data are critical, because a power cut will cause any unsaved data to be lost.
Don't forget to say thanks...
Horoscope Test, If you are honest this tells the truth - it's pretty good
Horoscope Test...
If you are honest this tells the truth - it's pretty good
Write your answers on a piece of paper. No cheating !!
The answers are at the bottom of this page.
1. Write the name of a person of the opposite sex.
2. Which is your favourite colour out of red, black, blue, green, yellow?
3. Your first initial?
4. Your month of birth?
5. Which colour do you like more, black or white?
6. Name of a person of the same sex as yours.
7. Your favourite number?
8. Do you like Sydney or Brisbane more?
9. Do you like a lake or the ocean more?
10. Write down a wish (a realistic one).
When you're done, scroll down. (Don't cheat)
Answers
1. You are completely in love with this person.
2. If you choose:
White: You will have a friend who completely confides in you and would do anything for you, but you may not realize it.
6. This person is your best friend.
7. This is how many close friends you have in your lifetime.
8. If you chose: Sydney: You like adventure. Brisbane: You are a laid back person.
9. If you chose:
Lake: You are loyal to your friends and your lover and are very reserved.
Ocean: You are spontaneous and like to please people.
10. This wish will come true only if you send this to five people in one hour. Send it to ten people, and it will come true before your next birthday!
If you are honest this tells the truth - it's pretty good
Write your answers on a piece of paper. No cheating !!
The answers are at the bottom of this page.
1. Write the name of a person of the opposite sex.
2. Which is your favourite colour out of red, black, blue, green, yellow?
3. Your first initial?
4. Your month of birth?
5. Which colour do you like more, black or white?
6. Name of a person of the same sex as yours.
7. Your favourite number?
8. Do you like Sydney or Brisbane more?
9. Do you like a lake or the ocean more?
10. Write down a wish (a realistic one).
When you're done, scroll down. (Don't cheat)
Answers
1. You are completely in love with this person.
2. If you choose:
- Red - You are alert and your life is full of love.
- Black - you are conservative and aggressive.
- Green - your soul is relaxed and you are laid
- back Blue - you are spontaneous and love kisses and affection from the ones you love.
- Yellow- you are a very happy person and give good advice to those who are down.
- A-K You have a lot of love to give in friendships in your life.
- L-R You try to enjoy your life to the maximum and your love life is soon to blossom.
- S-Z You like to help others and your future love life looks very good.
- Jan-Mar: The year will go very well for you and you will discover that you fell in love with someone totally unexpected.
- April-June: You will have a strong love relationship that will last long and the memories will last forever.
- July-Sep: You will have a great year and will experience a major life-changing experience for the good.
- Oct-Dec: Your love life will not be too great, but eventually you will find your soul mate.
White: You will have a friend who completely confides in you and would do anything for you, but you may not realize it.
6. This person is your best friend.
7. This is how many close friends you have in your lifetime.
8. If you chose: Sydney: You like adventure. Brisbane: You are a laid back person.
9. If you chose:
Lake: You are loyal to your friends and your lover and are very reserved.
Ocean: You are spontaneous and like to please people.
10. This wish will come true only if you send this to five people in one hour. Send it to ten people, and it will come true before your next birthday!
100 Reasons Why It's Great To Be A Woman, (Really ???)
Its only jokes, so enjoy it
1. Working / Earning not mandatory.
2. We never have to buy our own drinks at the bar.
3. We don't have to bother on mobile bills.
4. We get out of speeding tickets by crying.
5. We don't have to stand on the queue to get tickets.
6. We can sleep our way to the top of the class.
7. We don't have to worry about the purse when we shop with men.
8. We can marry rich and then not have to work.
9. We never have to pay when we go out on dates.
10. Men take us on all expense paid trips
11. We always get place to sit when using public transport.
12. Easy to get a ride.
13. Men hold the door open for us.
14. Jewels looks good on us.
15. We lie better.
16. We're better manipulators.
17. We always end up sleeping in the bed when we fight with our other halves - you guys get the couch.
18. We always have food in the fridge.
19. We don't worry about losing our hair.
20. We always get to choose the movie.
21. We don't have to mow the lawn.
22. We don't have to take out the garbage.
23. We don't have to paint the house or walls.
24. If we need to our boyfriends just a missed call is enough.
25. We can easily show our disappointments or disapprovals.
26. We can con our way out of anything - not just dig ourselves deeper into a hole.
27. Men unlock our side of the car first - a real bonus when its cold.
28. Even strangers shows care if we are in trouble. Men have to manage themselves.
29. Men are like tiles, lay 'em right the first time you can walk all over em forever.
30. We can cry in public. Men cant.
31. We don't feel shy to cry.
32. We don have worry if we lose the fight.
33. Sweat is sexy on us.
34. We never run out of excuses.
35. You guys may get to think about sex 200 times a day, but we could be having it that often.
36. We can borrow clothes or accessories from our friends.
37. We get expensive jewelry as gifts that we NEVER have to give back.
38. We get candy, flowers and jewelry all the time because men screw up so often.
39. We can give "the look" that will make any man want to cower in the corner.
40. Women are cleaner.
41. We know how to make up stories.
42. We're better arguers.
43. We don't always have to think with our genitals.
44. We don't have to worry if we are plump. Men still like us.
45. We're better parents.
46. We never have to sit home alone on a weekend night.
47. There's never a shortage of ready, willing, and able men.
48. We're flexible.
49. When women get upset, we don't destroy property or hurt people - we just take it out on the world in general because we can.
50. Easy to make friendships.
51. Much easy to get a date.
52. Men have to be in uniform.
53. We can do makeup anywhere
54. If we do heavy purchase we don't have to carry those things. Men are there.
55. It generally takes us less to get drunk.
56. We have a higher tolerance to pain.
57. We often get to cut in line (Queue).
58. Most women actually look good in short shorts - men DON'T.
59. Better tips.
60. Women who don't wear underwear are considered sexy and wild, when men do it, it's rather disgusting
61. We have mastered civilized eating - we don't embarrass our friends or make loud bodily noises in public.
62. Women can go a day without showering or shaving and not look or smell disgusting - thank heaven for long pants and perfume!
63. We can connive men into doing our homework, writing our papers or carrying our books anytime we want.
64. We don't have excessive amounts of body hair.
65. We don't spend 45 minutes on the toilet.
66. We don't bother if our IQ level is less. Just a smile is enough.
67. We are always smart.
68. We can throw a punch at a man and not get hit in return.
69. We don't have to lie to boast ourselves better.
70. Men walk on the side of the sidewalk closest to the road so that if a car hits us, he gets hurt not us.
71. Women sweat less.
72. Women smell better.
73. When women make their boyfriends mad, we don't have to waste money on flowers or cards
74. Men are more often serial killers, thieves, rapists and cheats.
75. We don get charged if we tease men in public.
76. We can be late to the office.
77. We don't get embarrassed when buying tampons.
78. We're better gossips.
79. We have better fashion sense.
80. We're better shoppers.
81. We don't have to make fools out of ourselves to impress a man.
82. Our friends don't pick on us if we aren't sleeping with anyone.
83. Men don't know what our 'girl talk' is all about (and I'm not gonna tell you)
84. We're all sitting on a gold mine - we know it and use it to our extreme advantage.
85. We don't have to drive when on a date.
86. An ugly woman can use makeup and get a new hairdo to become presentable - ugly men are just ugly.
87. We can search for hours together in a shop not necessary to buy.
88. Don't have to maintain great physique.
89. Women look better naked
90. We know that rhythm doesn't only pertain to dancing.
91. When women are short, we're petite. When men are short, they're just short.
92. Women do less time for violent crimes.
93. Women don't have to worry about not being able to get it up.
94. There are many hands to lift us when we slip to ground. Poor men they have to get up on their own.
95. And we don't have to feel shy about falling down.
96. Women's conversations generally consist of more than just "uh huh, yep ok then bye"
97. Women don't need an excuse to be in a bad mood.
98. The remote control is not an extension of ourselves.
99. Women are sexier.
100. We can get laid ANYTIME, ANYWHERE, ANY WAY we want it.........!
1. Working / Earning not mandatory.
2. We never have to buy our own drinks at the bar.
3. We don't have to bother on mobile bills.
4. We get out of speeding tickets by crying.
5. We don't have to stand on the queue to get tickets.
6. We can sleep our way to the top of the class.
7. We don't have to worry about the purse when we shop with men.
8. We can marry rich and then not have to work.
9. We never have to pay when we go out on dates.
10. Men take us on all expense paid trips
11. We always get place to sit when using public transport.
12. Easy to get a ride.
13. Men hold the door open for us.
14. Jewels looks good on us.
15. We lie better.
16. We're better manipulators.
17. We always end up sleeping in the bed when we fight with our other halves - you guys get the couch.
18. We always have food in the fridge.
19. We don't worry about losing our hair.
20. We always get to choose the movie.
21. We don't have to mow the lawn.
22. We don't have to take out the garbage.
23. We don't have to paint the house or walls.
24. If we need to our boyfriends just a missed call is enough.
25. We can easily show our disappointments or disapprovals.
26. We can con our way out of anything - not just dig ourselves deeper into a hole.
27. Men unlock our side of the car first - a real bonus when its cold.
28. Even strangers shows care if we are in trouble. Men have to manage themselves.
29. Men are like tiles, lay 'em right the first time you can walk all over em forever.
30. We can cry in public. Men cant.
31. We don't feel shy to cry.
32. We don have worry if we lose the fight.
33. Sweat is sexy on us.
34. We never run out of excuses.
35. You guys may get to think about sex 200 times a day, but we could be having it that often.
36. We can borrow clothes or accessories from our friends.
37. We get expensive jewelry as gifts that we NEVER have to give back.
38. We get candy, flowers and jewelry all the time because men screw up so often.
39. We can give "the look" that will make any man want to cower in the corner.
40. Women are cleaner.
41. We know how to make up stories.
42. We're better arguers.
43. We don't always have to think with our genitals.
44. We don't have to worry if we are plump. Men still like us.
45. We're better parents.
46. We never have to sit home alone on a weekend night.
47. There's never a shortage of ready, willing, and able men.
48. We're flexible.
49. When women get upset, we don't destroy property or hurt people - we just take it out on the world in general because we can.
50. Easy to make friendships.
51. Much easy to get a date.
52. Men have to be in uniform.
53. We can do makeup anywhere
54. If we do heavy purchase we don't have to carry those things. Men are there.
55. It generally takes us less to get drunk.
56. We have a higher tolerance to pain.
57. We often get to cut in line (Queue).
58. Most women actually look good in short shorts - men DON'T.
59. Better tips.
60. Women who don't wear underwear are considered sexy and wild, when men do it, it's rather disgusting
61. We have mastered civilized eating - we don't embarrass our friends or make loud bodily noises in public.
62. Women can go a day without showering or shaving and not look or smell disgusting - thank heaven for long pants and perfume!
63. We can connive men into doing our homework, writing our papers or carrying our books anytime we want.
64. We don't have excessive amounts of body hair.
65. We don't spend 45 minutes on the toilet.
66. We don't bother if our IQ level is less. Just a smile is enough.
67. We are always smart.
68. We can throw a punch at a man and not get hit in return.
69. We don't have to lie to boast ourselves better.
70. Men walk on the side of the sidewalk closest to the road so that if a car hits us, he gets hurt not us.
71. Women sweat less.
72. Women smell better.
73. When women make their boyfriends mad, we don't have to waste money on flowers or cards
74. Men are more often serial killers, thieves, rapists and cheats.
75. We don get charged if we tease men in public.
76. We can be late to the office.
77. We don't get embarrassed when buying tampons.
78. We're better gossips.
79. We have better fashion sense.
80. We're better shoppers.
81. We don't have to make fools out of ourselves to impress a man.
82. Our friends don't pick on us if we aren't sleeping with anyone.
83. Men don't know what our 'girl talk' is all about (and I'm not gonna tell you)
84. We're all sitting on a gold mine - we know it and use it to our extreme advantage.
85. We don't have to drive when on a date.
86. An ugly woman can use makeup and get a new hairdo to become presentable - ugly men are just ugly.
87. We can search for hours together in a shop not necessary to buy.
88. Don't have to maintain great physique.
89. Women look better naked
90. We know that rhythm doesn't only pertain to dancing.
91. When women are short, we're petite. When men are short, they're just short.
92. Women do less time for violent crimes.
93. Women don't have to worry about not being able to get it up.
94. There are many hands to lift us when we slip to ground. Poor men they have to get up on their own.
95. And we don't have to feel shy about falling down.
96. Women's conversations generally consist of more than just "uh huh, yep ok then bye"
97. Women don't need an excuse to be in a bad mood.
98. The remote control is not an extension of ourselves.
99. Women are sexier.
100. We can get laid ANYTIME, ANYWHERE, ANY WAY we want it.........!
Avoid the five most common love traps smart couples fall into.
1. Setting up house too quickly
Love lessons: It’s extremely common for couples to become very besotted, very quickly. The problem is, for the first three to 18 months of most relationships, people have their loved-up glasses on and can’t make practical, sensible decisions. They think moving in together after two weeks is a brilliant idea, as is buying a house full of yellow IKEA furniture!
“When we first meet, we are influenced by our need to hold onto that someone special,” says relationship psychologist Colleen Gray. “We don’t make time for the important conversations about what each other really want.” So what can you do? Make a different commitment, like exchanging promise rings or holidaying together to test the waters first.
Also map out your ideas for the future to make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to things like family, career, travel and money. It may sound scary, but it’s better to know now than later.
2. Making comparisons
Love lessons: There’s an old saying that, when we meet someone, we meet the people and experiences who have come before them. Dealing with exes, friends and family is just reality and we all need to be strong enough to handle that. “Everyone’s relationship is different and making comparisons is pointless,” says Gray.
“The binding glue of any relationship is friendship, interest, affection and enjoyment,” she adds. “You really have to focus on these four things and on the other person if you’re going to make your union work.” As they say, if the grass is always greener on other side of fence, water your own lawn!
3. Spending 24/7 in each other’s pockets
Love lessons: It’s extremely common for couples to become very besotted, very quickly. The problem is, for the first three to 18 months of most relationships, people have their loved-up glasses on and can’t make practical, sensible decisions. They think moving in together after two weeks is a brilliant idea, as is buying a house full of yellow IKEA furniture!
“When we first meet, we are influenced by our need to hold onto that someone special,” says relationship psychologist Colleen Gray. “We don’t make time for the important conversations about what each other really want.” So what can you do? Make a different commitment, like exchanging promise rings or holidaying together to test the waters first.
Also map out your ideas for the future to make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to things like family, career, travel and money. It may sound scary, but it’s better to know now than later.
2. Making comparisons
Love lessons: There’s an old saying that, when we meet someone, we meet the people and experiences who have come before them. Dealing with exes, friends and family is just reality and we all need to be strong enough to handle that. “Everyone’s relationship is different and making comparisons is pointless,” says Gray.
“The binding glue of any relationship is friendship, interest, affection and enjoyment,” she adds. “You really have to focus on these four things and on the other person if you’re going to make your union work.” As they say, if the grass is always greener on other side of fence, water your own lawn!
3. Spending 24/7 in each other’s pockets
Love lessons: Spending every minute of every day with someone is like indulging in good chocolate, fine wine and rich food – there’s only so much you can have at one time. After a while your appetite changes and you want to taste something different. “Human beings need space to think, take time out, do what they like doing, and recharge their batteries away from other’s expectations and demands,” says Gray. “Couples who work together in business usually say they just simply tire of the same conversations and have no respite from each other’s irritations.”
It’s flattering when someone wants to be with you all the time but giving your sole attention to anything isn’t healthy, so ensure you schedule time-out to get in touch with yourself and the rest of your life.
4. Seeing everything from one sideIt’s flattering when someone wants to be with you all the time but giving your sole attention to anything isn’t healthy, so ensure you schedule time-out to get in touch with yourself and the rest of your life.
Love lessons: There’s a famous line in the flick Dumb and Dumber where Jeff Daniels’ character says “I called her up, she gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her, or something, I don't know, I wasn't really paying attention.” Can’t we all relate to that? “Not listening to each other is a huge problem for many couples,” explains Gray. “They’re so busy defending their point of view and trying to make the other person agree with them that they forget to resolve the issue at hand.” Writing your thoughts down in a letter to your partner, talking through problems when you’re not angry and staying good humoured is key to having an equal relationship (and a full set of china!).
Don’t make mountains out of small issues; it takes a confident person to accept other people’s opinions, even when they don’t match their own, so work on being strong and self-assured.
5. Forgetting to live in the momentDon’t make mountains out of small issues; it takes a confident person to accept other people’s opinions, even when they don’t match their own, so work on being strong and self-assured.
Love lessons: It’s not surprising that in a world where it can take you three hours to drive to work, the pressure cooker on our lives is well and truly smokin’! Time is a precious gift, which is why we should give it to those we love the most. “If you ask a couple who are feeling the strain what’s missing from their relationship, they will say time together, talking to each other, doing the things they enjoy doing and having kid-free time,” says Gray. “Most people sacrifice ‘couple time’ first when they should be doing the exact opposite.”
Her tip? Try to see your partner as your first saw them – remember how they looked, felt, smelt – it will re-ignite your passion for them. We all commit relationship mistakes, the trick to a love-filled life is putting the time into overcoming them.
Her tip? Try to see your partner as your first saw them – remember how they looked, felt, smelt – it will re-ignite your passion for them. We all commit relationship mistakes, the trick to a love-filled life is putting the time into overcoming them.
Ten Secrets to be a better person
- The FIRST secret - the power of THOUGHT.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his or her needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognise her when you meet her.
- The SECOND secret - the power of RESPECT.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect, ask yourself, What do I respect about myself? -
To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, What do I respect about them?
To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, What do I respect about them?
- The THIRD secret - the power of GIVING.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
- The FOURTH secret - the power of FRIENDSHIP.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other"s eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love him or her for who they are and not for what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
- The FIFTH secret - the power of TOUCH.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
- The SIXTH secret - the power of LETTING GO.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours, if it doesn"t, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life. -
- The SEVENTH secret - the power of COMMUNICATION.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: I Love You Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see him or her. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and .. why are you waiting?
- The EIGHTH secret -The power of COMMITMENT.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the TRUE test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
- The NINTH secret - the power of PASSION.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences. When you felt passionate spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
The TENTH secret - the power of TRUST.Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust him or her completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, . Do I trust them completely and unreservedly? - If the answer is no -, think carefully before making a commitment.
45 things a girl want for but wont ask for...
1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.
Are you remembering this?
6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.
KEEP READING ..
11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say "I love her more than you", deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can't get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.
Are you thinking of someone?
16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she's beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.
One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.
21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she's your everything - only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.
24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know! WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..
26. Don't lie to her.
27. DON'T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn't need you, just be there so she'll know that she can always count on you.
ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT'S IMPORTANT.
31. Hold her close when she's cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Don't ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you're mad. If she's upset, comfort her.
REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..
36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.
41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you're sitting on her. You'll never know when she needs just a little more love ..
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.
Are you remembering this?
6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.
KEEP READING ..
11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say "I love her more than you", deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can't get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.
Are you thinking of someone?
16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she's beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.
One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.
21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she's your everything - only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.
24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know! WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..
26. Don't lie to her.
27. DON'T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn't need you, just be there so she'll know that she can always count on you.
ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT'S IMPORTANT.
31. Hold her close when she's cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Don't ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you're mad. If she's upset, comfort her.
REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..
36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.
41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you're sitting on her. You'll never know when she needs just a little more love ..
Reader Support as Part of Your Brand
Those kids we call reluctant readers leave their inline skates to read what they’re madly interested in — books on extreme sports and the latest gaming websites and blogs — if they’re made right. As educators, we keep them using the research that show us how to construct information so that they’re reading faster and with more satisfaction.
You can use that same educational research to engage your customer-readers. Brand your blog as a worthwhile source of quality content. It’s one more way, that you can make customer-reader support a resounding part of your offer.
Each of these points are about helping reluctant readers access your message in the easiest most straightforward way. When you support me like that I feel like we’re both smart.
Ever read something that made you feel like the writer was saying something you always thought? . . . or something that just made you feel smart for reading it? Bet you went back to see what else that writer had to say . . . . These are just a few more ways to a fan.
What makes an irresistibly readable blog for you?
You can use that same educational research to engage your customer-readers. Brand your blog as a worthwhile source of quality content. It’s one more way, that you can make customer-reader support a resounding part of your offer.
- Tell the story of the information. Quality is essential, but know that quality information can’t carry the load. If people only want information sources are plenty. The story of the facts, your experience or response to them is only where you are. It’s the story that gives connects people to the information. Give your words and your blog life, appeal, and meaning and you’ll be most of the way there.
- Use sub-heads liberally. Sub-heads break the text into shorter bits. Subconsciously that not only tells me what this bit is about. It also says I only have to read this far and then I get to breathe again. Our brains like subheads. Search engines like them too. The keywords are guideposts that organize our thoughts.
- Use everyday words. Everyday words keep the reader moving forward. Big words make us stop to consider them. Think about it. The word use is a fine one, use it. Do you really mean utilize? Use keeps me going. Utilize makes me stop to wonder whether you mean something other than the what use would have said. Anything that stops a reader works against your message being heard.
- Use one or two pictures, images, art, and color to enhance your message. Place them with care where add value to the text. Put images where readers expect to find them. If you’re not sure ask a customer-reader to give you feedback on how you’re doing. Design seems easy, but it’s not.
- Take the time to write something short. The point here is to make every word count. Be lethal. Remove every word that you don’t need. It’s amazing how many extra words you can find when your quest is to go looking for them. A few sentences ago, I turned this into two posts instead of one.
- Use typographic cues, such as bold and italic, to show what’s important. Be consistent and try not to make everything important. If you use underlined text to show what is a link, don’t use an underline for anything else. If you make everything important, then nothing is.
- Show up to let folks know you want them there. Write with room for them to add their view. Consider the questions you ask them. When they take the time to respond, let them know that you heard. Take time to answer back with your thoughts and if you can, ask another question.
Each of these points are about helping reluctant readers access your message in the easiest most straightforward way. When you support me like that I feel like we’re both smart.
Ever read something that made you feel like the writer was saying something you always thought? . . . or something that just made you feel smart for reading it? Bet you went back to see what else that writer had to say . . . . These are just a few more ways to a fan.
What makes an irresistibly readable blog for you?
Male And Female Brain The Male Brain vs The Female Brain
Some interesting differences between men's and women's brains, collected from sources listed below. Read with a grain of salt, and further investigate the ones that get you riled up.
1. Men's brains are larger, but as they age, they also shrink faster than women's brains.
2. Women's brains operate at a higher temperature, due to burning more glucose.
3. Women use more of their brains when they think.
4. In general, men are better at math and women are better at language skills. This is suggested by research on the brain that has found that the "gray matter" in men's brains is more active during thought while the "white matter" in women's brains is more active. Gray matter is the unscientific name for the part of the brain that handles information processing, and white matter is made up of the parts that network information together to understand relationships among pieces of data.
5. Perhaps due to the previous point, men tend to score an average of 5 points higher on intelligence tests. (Unexamined, however, is whether such tests are geared disproportionately toward mathematical and other straightforward problem-solving, or even whether most IQ tests are created by men.)
6. The average man will think about sex approximately once a minute, while the average woman will think of sex around once every few days.
7. Why do women always want to talk? Researchers have found that connecting with another through talking will trigger the pleasure centers in a woman's brain, a high second only to an orgasm.
8. Baby girls have been observed to typically have stronger reactions than boys to disturbing or distressful sounds.
9. A 20-second hug will trigger the release of oxytocin in a woman's brain. The effect of this chemical will often give the woman a feeling of trust in the person hugging her.
10. Men reportedly use less words per day than women. Depending on which study you believe (if any), the "word gap" can be anywhere from 1,000 to 10,000 words a day.
Sources: Sex on the Brain, Deborah Blum; The Female Brain, Louann Brizendine; University of California, Brown University and University of New Mexico research; www.tmcnet.com; www.quazen.com
1. Men's brains are larger, but as they age, they also shrink faster than women's brains.
2. Women's brains operate at a higher temperature, due to burning more glucose.
3. Women use more of their brains when they think.
4. In general, men are better at math and women are better at language skills. This is suggested by research on the brain that has found that the "gray matter" in men's brains is more active during thought while the "white matter" in women's brains is more active. Gray matter is the unscientific name for the part of the brain that handles information processing, and white matter is made up of the parts that network information together to understand relationships among pieces of data.
5. Perhaps due to the previous point, men tend to score an average of 5 points higher on intelligence tests. (Unexamined, however, is whether such tests are geared disproportionately toward mathematical and other straightforward problem-solving, or even whether most IQ tests are created by men.)
6. The average man will think about sex approximately once a minute, while the average woman will think of sex around once every few days.
7. Why do women always want to talk? Researchers have found that connecting with another through talking will trigger the pleasure centers in a woman's brain, a high second only to an orgasm.
8. Baby girls have been observed to typically have stronger reactions than boys to disturbing or distressful sounds.
9. A 20-second hug will trigger the release of oxytocin in a woman's brain. The effect of this chemical will often give the woman a feeling of trust in the person hugging her.
10. Men reportedly use less words per day than women. Depending on which study you believe (if any), the "word gap" can be anywhere from 1,000 to 10,000 words a day.
Sources: Sex on the Brain, Deborah Blum; The Female Brain, Louann Brizendine; University of California, Brown University and University of New Mexico research; www.tmcnet.com; www.quazen.com
31 ways to make a girl smile
1. Don't hug her friends or your friends that are girls cause she'll feel left out
2. Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if it's just for a second.
3. Hug her from behind
4. Leave her voice messages to wake up.
5. Wrestle with her
6. Don't go hang out with your ex when shes not with you, you might not realize how badly it hurts her.
7. If you're talking to another girl, when you're done talking, walk over and
hug her and kiss her.... let her know she's yours and they aren't.
8. Write her notes or call her just to say "hi"..and not just at night after you've already been out with other girls.
9. Introduce her to your friends . . . as your girlfriend.
10. Play with her hair.
11. Pick her up
12. Get upset if another guy touches her and she doesn't like it.
13. Make her laugh, if you can make her laugh, you can make her do
anything.
14. Let her fall asleep in your arms.
15. If she's mad at you, kiss her.
16. If you care about her, then tell her
17. Every guy should give their girl 3 things: a stuffed animal(she'll hug it every time she goes to sleep), jewelry (she'll treasure it forever), and one of his t-shirts (she'll most likely wear it to bed).
18. Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you're alone.
19. Look her in the eyes and smile.
20. Hang out with her on weekends
21. Kiss her in the rain
22. Kiss her just for the heck of it
23. If your listening to music, let her listen too.
24. Remember her birthday and get her something, even if
it's simple and inexpensive, it came from YOU. it means all the world to HER. it's the thought that counts.
25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it, even if you don't (it'll make her happy.)
26. Always call her when you say you will, it may not seem like it, but it does hurt her and makes her think you don't care so call even if you can only talk for a minute. Girls don't necessarily have to have hour-long conversations every night but it's nice for us to hear your voice even for a quick hello.
27. Give her what she wants
28. Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
29. Tell her she's beautiful, she needs to know her striving is working.
30. Hang out with her whenever you are free and u should be free to hang
with your girlfriend all the time
31. If u care about her...SHOW it!
2. Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if it's just for a second.
3. Hug her from behind
4. Leave her voice messages to wake up.
5. Wrestle with her
6. Don't go hang out with your ex when shes not with you, you might not realize how badly it hurts her.
7. If you're talking to another girl, when you're done talking, walk over and
hug her and kiss her.... let her know she's yours and they aren't.
8. Write her notes or call her just to say "hi"..and not just at night after you've already been out with other girls.
9. Introduce her to your friends . . . as your girlfriend.
10. Play with her hair.
11. Pick her up
12. Get upset if another guy touches her and she doesn't like it.
13. Make her laugh, if you can make her laugh, you can make her do
anything.
14. Let her fall asleep in your arms.
15. If she's mad at you, kiss her.
16. If you care about her, then tell her
17. Every guy should give their girl 3 things: a stuffed animal(she'll hug it every time she goes to sleep), jewelry (she'll treasure it forever), and one of his t-shirts (she'll most likely wear it to bed).
18. Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you're alone.
19. Look her in the eyes and smile.
20. Hang out with her on weekends
21. Kiss her in the rain
22. Kiss her just for the heck of it
23. If your listening to music, let her listen too.
24. Remember her birthday and get her something, even if
it's simple and inexpensive, it came from YOU. it means all the world to HER. it's the thought that counts.
25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it, even if you don't (it'll make her happy.)
26. Always call her when you say you will, it may not seem like it, but it does hurt her and makes her think you don't care so call even if you can only talk for a minute. Girls don't necessarily have to have hour-long conversations every night but it's nice for us to hear your voice even for a quick hello.
27. Give her what she wants
28. Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
29. Tell her she's beautiful, she needs to know her striving is working.
30. Hang out with her whenever you are free and u should be free to hang
with your girlfriend all the time
31. If u care about her...SHOW it!
Girlfriend
How to Cheat on Your Girlfriend
Brief explanations. Get her used to brief explanations about the things you do or the places you've been while you're not with her.
Find someone who digs you. And who is willing to get down with you even though you already have a girlfriend. It's usually really quite simple to have a quick fling at work. But, be very carefull with it because of office politics.
Get an accomplice. Having a sidekick which you can trust always comes in handy when supporting your alibis; Sisters, brothers, neighbors, best friends, etc. Just make sure they won't back stab you!.
Date your lovers wisely. Take advantage of your girlfriend being busy, for instance, date your lover when she has to go to piano lessons or cheerleading practice. But prioritize special dates for your girlfriend, such as birthdays, prom, anniversaries, etc.
Reduce the risk of being casually burnt. Try not to take your lover where you usually take your girl or where she usually hangs out (Except the back seat of your car).
Leave no trail. Delete SMS messages from your lover immediately after reading them and camouflage her phone numbers on your cell-phone to unsuspicious male names such as "Pete", "Arthur" and so on. Your girlfriend could also read your e-mail without you even noticing, open a new account for this purpose and keep it safe.
Avoid confusions. Specially in bed, always refer to them with generic names such as baby, honey, bunny, etc. Or give them the same pet name. That way, you'll never screw it by saying the other's one name.
Dump your lover gently. Your lover has enough information and evidence to destroy your steady relationship. That's why you should make her believe dumping her is best for everybody. For example, tell your lover she deserves her own boyfriend, not a double timing guy like you.
What's done is done. You can cause more damage by telling your girlfriend the truth and there is no need to do it.
Never cheat with your girlfriend's close friends, relatives, class-mates and people who can potentially screw it up.
Be prepared. Always have a alibi even if she is not use to debrief you.
Easy going girls make perfect lovers.
Remember people (Including you) might end heart broken, injured, overwhelmed by sadness for a long time or even tempted to suicide. Its best not to even cheat. Your girlfriend will find out and get heart broken
Things can evolve in a very complex situation and end in a big drama, involving her parents and possible wishes of hurting you.
Having one girlfriend might be expensive. Having two or more girlfriends, you do the math.
Always, don't matter what or who you do it with, use "protection properly.
Brief explanations. Get her used to brief explanations about the things you do or the places you've been while you're not with her.
Find someone who digs you. And who is willing to get down with you even though you already have a girlfriend. It's usually really quite simple to have a quick fling at work. But, be very carefull with it because of office politics.
Get an accomplice. Having a sidekick which you can trust always comes in handy when supporting your alibis; Sisters, brothers, neighbors, best friends, etc. Just make sure they won't back stab you!.
Date your lovers wisely. Take advantage of your girlfriend being busy, for instance, date your lover when she has to go to piano lessons or cheerleading practice. But prioritize special dates for your girlfriend, such as birthdays, prom, anniversaries, etc.
Reduce the risk of being casually burnt. Try not to take your lover where you usually take your girl or where she usually hangs out (Except the back seat of your car).
Leave no trail. Delete SMS messages from your lover immediately after reading them and camouflage her phone numbers on your cell-phone to unsuspicious male names such as "Pete", "Arthur" and so on. Your girlfriend could also read your e-mail without you even noticing, open a new account for this purpose and keep it safe.
Avoid confusions. Specially in bed, always refer to them with generic names such as baby, honey, bunny, etc. Or give them the same pet name. That way, you'll never screw it by saying the other's one name.
Dump your lover gently. Your lover has enough information and evidence to destroy your steady relationship. That's why you should make her believe dumping her is best for everybody. For example, tell your lover she deserves her own boyfriend, not a double timing guy like you.
What's done is done. You can cause more damage by telling your girlfriend the truth and there is no need to do it.
Never cheat with your girlfriend's close friends, relatives, class-mates and people who can potentially screw it up.
Be prepared. Always have a alibi even if she is not use to debrief you.
Easy going girls make perfect lovers.
Remember people (Including you) might end heart broken, injured, overwhelmed by sadness for a long time or even tempted to suicide. Its best not to even cheat. Your girlfriend will find out and get heart broken
Things can evolve in a very complex situation and end in a big drama, involving her parents and possible wishes of hurting you.
Having one girlfriend might be expensive. Having two or more girlfriends, you do the math.
Always, don't matter what or who you do it with, use "protection properly.
why men are never depressed
Men Are Just Happier People -- What do you expect from such simple creatures? Your last name stays put. The garage is all yours. Wedding plans take care of themselves. Chocolate is just another snack. You can never be pregnant. You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park. You can wear NO shirt to a water park. Car mechanics tell you the truth. The world is your urinal. You never have to drive to another gas station restroom because this one is just too icky. You don't have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt. Same work, more pay. Wrinkles add character. Wedding dress = £2500. Tux rental = £100. People never stare at your chest when you're talking to them. New shoes don't cut, blister, or mangle your feet. One mood all the time.
Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat. You know stuff about tanks. A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase. You can open all your own jars. You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness. If someone forgets to invite you, he or she can still be your friend
Your underwear is £5.95 for a three-pack. Three pairs of shoes are more than enough. You almost never have strap problems in public. You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes. Everything on your face stays its original color. The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades. You only have to shave your face and neck.
You can play with toys all your life. One wallet and one pair of shoes -- one color for all seasons. You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look. You can 'do' your nails with a pocket knife. You have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache.
You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives on December 24 in 25 minutes.
No wonder men are happier
Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat. You know stuff about tanks. A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase. You can open all your own jars. You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness. If someone forgets to invite you, he or she can still be your friend
Your underwear is £5.95 for a three-pack. Three pairs of shoes are more than enough. You almost never have strap problems in public. You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes. Everything on your face stays its original color. The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades. You only have to shave your face and neck.
You can play with toys all your life. One wallet and one pair of shoes -- one color for all seasons. You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look. You can 'do' your nails with a pocket knife. You have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache.
You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives on December 24 in 25 minutes.
No wonder men are happier
love don't need reason
Lady : Why do you like me..? Why do you love me?
Man : I can't tell the reason.. but I really like you..
Lady : You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?
Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.
Lady : Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!
Man : Ok..ok!!! Erm... because you are beautiful, because your voice is sweet,
because you are caring, because you are loving, because you are thoughtful, because of your smile, because of your every movements.
The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer.
Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and became comma. The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:
Darling,
Because of your sweet voice that I love you...
Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your care and concern that I like you..
Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your smile, because of your every movements that I love you..
Now can you smile? Now can you move? No, therefore I cannot love you...
If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.
Do love need a reason? NO! Therefore, I still love you...
And love doesn't need a reason
" Sometimes the best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen,
cannot be touched, but can be felt in the heart "
Love doesn’t need a reason... its something u can feel burning inside ur heart and waiting to be explode of love...
Please... never ever ask someone why do they love u.... love is nature and without love the world is nothing but a piece of crap... So Everyone love the world and also love ur loved ones... =D ... Pass. It On And Make Sure Everyone Knows About It...
Man : I can't tell the reason.. but I really like you..
Lady : You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?
Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.
Lady : Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!
Man : Ok..ok!!! Erm... because you are beautiful, because your voice is sweet,
because you are caring, because you are loving, because you are thoughtful, because of your smile, because of your every movements.
The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer.
Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and became comma. The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:
Darling,
Because of your sweet voice that I love you...
Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your care and concern that I like you..
Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your smile, because of your every movements that I love you..
Now can you smile? Now can you move? No, therefore I cannot love you...
If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.
Do love need a reason? NO! Therefore, I still love you...
And love doesn't need a reason
" Sometimes the best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen,
cannot be touched, but can be felt in the heart "
Love doesn’t need a reason... its something u can feel burning inside ur heart and waiting to be explode of love...
Please... never ever ask someone why do they love u.... love is nature and without love the world is nothing but a piece of crap... So Everyone love the world and also love ur loved ones... =D ... Pass. It On And Make Sure Everyone Knows About It...
can 1 borrow $25?
A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.
SON: 'Daddy, may I ask you a question?'
DAD: 'Yeah sure, what it is?' replied the man.
SON: 'Daddy, how much do you make an hour?'
DAD: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the man said angrily.
SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'
DAD: 'If you must know, I make $50 an hour.'
SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.
SON: 'Daddy, may I please borrow $25?'
The father was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.'
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think:
Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn't ask for money very often The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
'Are you asleep, son?' He asked.
'No daddy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.
'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the man. 'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $25 you asked for.'
The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you daddy!' he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.
The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.
The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.
'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the father grumbled.
'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.
'Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.'
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.
It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $50 worth of your time with someone you love.
If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives ...
SON: 'Daddy, may I ask you a question?'
DAD: 'Yeah sure, what it is?' replied the man.
SON: 'Daddy, how much do you make an hour?'
DAD: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the man said angrily.
SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'
DAD: 'If you must know, I make $50 an hour.'
SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.
SON: 'Daddy, may I please borrow $25?'
The father was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.'
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think:
Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn't ask for money very often The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
'Are you asleep, son?' He asked.
'No daddy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.
'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the man. 'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $25 you asked for.'
The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you daddy!' he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.
The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.
The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.
'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the father grumbled.
'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.
'Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.'
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.
It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $50 worth of your time with someone you love.
If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives ...
feeling
feeling bored?
- go out with me
feeling sad?
- call me
feeling lonely?
- see me
feeling sleepy?
- dream of me
and feeling hungry?
- don't eat me yach....!!!
- go out with me
feeling sad?
- call me
feeling lonely?
- see me
feeling sleepy?
- dream of me
and feeling hungry?
- don't eat me yach....!!!
